~ BIOGRAPHY ~
~ BIOGRAPHY ~ 
Because life constantly changes and I will always remember new things to add, I expect this page to always be
(At the time of this update - 08/06/2006 :) I'm a 45 year old woman who has been studying Wicca, NeoPaganism and comparative religion for almost 20 years now (since the mid-80s.) I've been a practicing Wiccan for a little over 10 years. In 1998 I was initiated into the service of the God/dess by a coven I associated with for around 4 years and studied with formally for 3 years. I also was a member of the Church of All Worlds between 1994 until its Board of Directors voted in September of 2004 to disband the organization and to revoke all memberships, and then resigned, en masse. I am currently a participant, but not a paid member of CAW which has been reclaimed by its founders and is in the process of being rebirthed.
I have been poly since I was 16 (well before I knew that there were others of us out here.) For several years I was in a MFM V triad marriage, which was one of the most emotionally satisfying times of my life. I shared shared 11 years - 6 of them in legal marriage with my sr husband and my jr husband and I shared more than a decade together as well, during which time we were betrothed, then handfasted, then, finally, legally married (after my sr husband parted paths with us.) Both of my husbands chose at some point to leave the marriage, and while one of those partings was much more painful than the other, we parted in love and I still hold both men dear in my heart. Which is very much consistent with my personality, as I love easily, forgive people for their human failings and never fall "out" of love. My jr husband and I are currently in the process of undergoing a legal divorce and I have recently healed enough to begin moving on and opening up to the idea of love and relationships again.
One of my life goals is to build a solid, extended family/tribe.
I discovered several years ago that I had the capacity to love women as well as men. Since that discovery I have had very few female lovers, as I have not yet developed the relationship skills necessary to develop a strong female-to-female sexualoving relationship. In fact, I tend to experience a lot of unrequited loving feelings towards female friends but do not have the confidence to pursue a more intimate relationship for fear of destroying the friendship in that pursuit.
I helped to start a bisexual social/support/activist group in Atlanta a few years back which has gone through several transformations to become a strong and healthy resource for bisexuals and I have also been a member of BiNet USA. While my life currently doesn't allow me time to be active as I have been in the past, I also am an extended member of the San Diego polyamory community when I have the time to attend events.
I have reached that point in my life where I want to stop chasing material goals and start focusing more on my spiritual goals. Actually, I haven't just started thinking that way, it is just that it is becoming more and more a demand on my psyche. Ironically, that previously lead to my resigning my position as a travel agent/trainer/technical assistant at a large corporate agency to become an "entrepreneur' and to attempt to make more money in less time through my own endeavors. Unfortunately, that effort failed (for that try at least- I'm still looking for something either that I can do at home or which is more in line with my values or both, and have recently started working on my concept business, Best Foot Forward again. After that initial failure I returned to travel for a while, until the agency I was working for closed the office I was working in due to industry downturn. The timing of that ended up being really unfortunate, as the office closed on September 15th, 2001... 4 days after 9/11. Needless to say there were no travel jobs after that for quite a while and I eventually gave up and retrained as a PC Help Desk technician, only to find that there were no entry level positions in that industry. So for the last few years I've been doing primarily administrative and clerical work and lots of temping while I search for a new job or employment path, or find someone who will hire a travel agent with 12 years experience who hasn't worked in the industry for 5 years.
2001 marked a transitional moment in my life. I moved to San Diego - my jr husband decided to break our agreements and chose to be with the person who had been working for several years to break up our marriage, and I ended up alone and without sufficient income to make it on my own a full continent away from what little support system I had. Since then I've been rebuilding and redefining my life, and I have recently found a new group of people, a new path and a new support system. I'm hopeful that something new in the way of a financial path will present itself soon, but in the meantime I've committed to returning to the spiritual path that I need to pursue as well. As a result I have returned to the work of manifesting a coven which I was called to create in 1999.
Well, I guess that's a start. I'll add more when I can think of it. More about me can be found at my Live Journal, if you're that interested.
May you never hunger. May you never thirst,
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