Q. Should a child be expected to share a toy at "Show and Tell" time in Kindergarten? My daughter is good when it comes to sharing, but tells me that other children won't share with her. Should I say something to her teacher?


A. I feel that "Show and Tell" serves different purposes. It helps a child to verbally express himself and learn to talk in front of others. It also helps a child to show self restraint, by having to politely wait her turn and listen to her classmates. In my room, the child must describe what has been brought in and tell the class about it. I ask my students questions regarding their "Show and Tell" and they must answer them, so that we all learn something new. Children are always curious about each other's things, so after the formal "Show and Tell" is over, I allow and encourage my students to share with each other at playtime. If the "Show and Tell" item is not an appropriate play thing or is breakable, the child is told to put it on my desk or in their backpack so it doesn't get broken.

Sharing is another important benefit of "Show and Tell". If a child is not willing to share a particular toy or game with classmates, then I feel it shouldn't be brought in for "Show and Tell".

I would definitely contact your daughter's teacher and mention your concern. She may not be aware of the situation. Sharing is a part of getting along socially, and should be encouraged as an example of good manners.


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