Fag Hags- A Social Analysis / Converters
There are some women who see it as a
personal goal to "Fix" or change gay men into straight men. They see
Homosexuality as a choice, not an innate identity. These women are
often simply looking for a challenge. It is not that they
necessarily feel that homosexuality is wrong, yet that
heterosexuality is a better choice.
Converters are often very
abrasive according to one gay man I interviewed. We will call him
"Michael". Michael recounts several experiences of women trying to
convince him that being straight would make them incredibly happy.
That sex with women is much more fulfilling, especially if it's sex
with them.
Michael told me that though he loves his fag hag friends
(The ones focused solely on friendship) converters scare him. "They
are too pushy. They can't understand that this is just the way I
am!" Converters stem from the social idea that homosexuality is a
phase. That often gay men are merely experimenting and that they
will eventually settle down with a nice girl.
Their existence and
tactics also make it clear that these women are being aggressive in
trying to find relationships, yet are not comfortable pursuing
straight men, possibly for the reasons discussed earlier. Gay men
are more similar and easier to relate to then straight men as a
whole. The aggressive qualities are similar to the idea of being
"Proactive", or taking an active role in changing your life. It is
the attitude that you have to go out and get what you want, even if
it may be something out of reach.
If a woman is trying to change someone to make
their own lives better, it shows a problem with the ways in which
that woman was taught to associate, and also demonstrates the
problems that stem from a society riddled with phobias and
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