Fag Hags- A Social Analysis / Marriages and Cheating
Marriages
Malone discusses the commonality of marriage between Fag Hags and
Gay Men as being much more common then most people would think. The
statistics he refers to states that about 20% of gay men have been
married at least once (Malone 7). This statistic, (Much higher then
I would have thought) shows that for whatever the reason,
relationships between these two facets of society are not only
common, but in a sense mainstream, if not openly stated to the
general public.
Cheating
One woman's recount of her situation is this, "My husband
provides me with money and sex, and Luis provides me with
entertainment-- it's as simple as that. I love my husband, but he's
a workaholic. He doesn't have the time or inclination for frivolity.
Luis and I go to the theatre, films, and night clubs, and have a
marvelous time. We're even been disco dancing at Studio 54, and it
was he who got us in. I pay for most of our excursions, of course,
but Luis is constantly bringing me little presents." (Malone 23)
The situation above is interesting because it would not seem
strange at all if Luis instead was a female friend, yet would seem
like an affair if he was a straight man. The rules in such a case
are blurry. There is an idea that a woman spending all her free time
with another man constitutes cheating, yet in this case there is no
sex involved. The existence of such situations is also quite common.
Many of the women I talked to discussed their desire to have a gay
man around for the "Fun" aspects of life, just as Luis provides for
the woman above. There seems to be an acceptance of men as an
alternative when women need to get away from their husbands and just
want to have a good time. Next >>
