Aries combines a strong sense of idealism with a need to take action, preferably physical action. All of your actions, behaviour, and attitudes - everything you do traces to this basic blending of enthusiasm, idealism, and action. If any part of this triad is missing from any circumstance you meet, you quickly lose interest in whatever you're doing and move on to something else. In so doing, you avoid resolving the issues in your life that need attention. Aries approaches life in a headstrong, impulsive and self-centered manner, with little patience to spare. You hate waiting and are anxious to take action when those around you move too slowly. Constant activity keeps your interest the most. When there is no excitement in your life you quickly get bored; you refuse to stay in one place for very long. You jump into new adwith both feet, never bothering with small things like caution or preparation. If you expect some kind of excitement or activity, then you have no time for anything else.

You have a weakness for jumping into new situations without thinking about the possible results. In fact, you do not really understand or relate to the consequences of your actions. All you understand is action and movement. Still, whether you realize it or not, your impulsive and pushy behaviour is counterproductive. You must learn to think about the consequences of your behaviour and would do well to listen to the advice of others. Accept responsibility for your actions. Independence is not only being able to do whatever one pleases, but also involves respecting the rights of others. Self-centered behaviour only works against you by creating anger and isolating you from those you need the most. You waste too much time and energy on unproductive conflict and turmoil.

Authority deeply impressed you when you were growing up. You especially admired your parent's ability to get what they wanted from life. As a result, you cultivated self-assurance and confident action. As an adult you take pride in your personal competence and independence, which shows as an air of self-confidence and personal strength. However, not recognizing or respecting limits, you often take this attitude too far. You seem pushy, with no concern for the ideas or feelings of others. You cannot understand anything outside yourself unless it relates to you personally. This strikes others as arrogant, self-centered and overbearing. Still, you have faith in and believe in your personal outlook and observations. You have fervent opinions and idealistic attitudes, active desires and powerful passions. You see things simply and in terms of yourself. You are extremely eager to have those around you see things your way, so you can be a bit overzealous in explaining or promoting your viewpoints. You assume you are always right in your interactions with others - no ifs, ands, or buts.

An Arian streak of fierce independence marks your personality with an extroverted confidence. This self-assurance also influences your relationships with and feelings about others. You open up to others quickly and genuinely enjoy other people's company. Understanding the need for human relationship, you nevertheless believe you must sacrifice a vital part of yourself in order to have a good relationship. You insist on personal freedom and are quite self-reliant, so you hate meddling from others (read advice, help, sympathy, compromise, cooperation, etc.). You sometimes neglect to think about the feelings of others. You are not malicious in this; you just fail to consider the effects your actions and comments have on people. You would do well to slow down a bit, listen to others, and think about what you are about to do or say, and why. You must remember that you are ultimately responsible for your actions; what goes around, comes around. Trouble arises when you become too impulsive and self-centered in your relationships. Freedom of spirit is an admirable quality, but taken too far becomes an arrogant refusal to listen to good advice. When you're in this kind of mood, you overreact to people by losing your temper and becoming with argumentative. You insist on doing things your way and refuse to listen to reason, even if you are wrong. You can be stubborn and obstinate, simply refusing to compromise or give in if you don't get your way. Naturally, this causes anger and hard feelings in your relationships, which you may secretly enjoy. While you hate admitting that you are wrong, you still need to be first in the eyes of those close to you. If a relationship is damaged you will work with a sincere determination to fix it. Your rousing charm and infectious innocence heal even the deepest of cuts and injuries. You seldom admit defeat, either willingly or unwillingly. If a relationship does end, you hurt for a while, but your enthusiasm for new beginnings takes over and you are off and running again.

Taurus relates best to the physical world, so you are happiest when your world follows a predictable and set course. Material stability is very important to you, because it is the basis for your personal sense of security. You prefer a practical and organized lifestyle with firm foundations. You desire social power and status, so your values and principles are usually traditional and conservative. Cautious and deliberate in your personal observations, you dislike unforeseen surprises. Anything unknown or uncontrollable automatically earns your suspicion and distrust. You control your behaviour because you believe in maintaining a personal status quo at all costs. This belief echoes your childhood, because it was something your parents also believed in wholeheartedly.

As a child, you faced being controlled by your parents, who strongly discouraged spontaneity. They laid down the law; you dared not object; end of story. As a result, you developed a thick-skinned self-expression that satisfied your parents' demands and kept you out of trouble. This childhood control and tension expresses as adult stubbornness and defensiveness. As such, you see those around you as people to be dominated. You do not always attempt this physically ‹ sometimes you prefer an emotional domination that works just as effectively. You are strong and intimidating, being very stubborn and opinionated in your dealings with others. You do not yield easily because you honestly believe that power and success come from determination (which is true for you in many instances). Others may call this determination stubbornness. These behaviours can work against you because you hold things in and suppress your anger. You do this until actual health problems occur or you explode in an emotional eruption of negative energy. And such an open display of uncontrolled behaviour is shameful and unthinkable to you. You must come to terms with your blocked emotions by examining your hidden feelings.

You can be a very determined person, which you use to overcome your problems. While you are more at home in the physical world, your purposeful willpower serves you just as well in dealing with emotional and relationship troubles. You take things slowly, making sure you are on solid ground before moving on. You have a deep loyalty to the people in your life, which makes your relationship ties difficult to break. If you have your heart set on success, you will reach your goals through your persistence. You have a natural sense of practical and material value, as well as an eye for aesthetic quality. To this end then, you surround yourself as much as possible with material items, the more luxurious the better. As a result, your physical environment is often practical in nature, substantial in value and pleasing to the eye.

Effective communication is important to Gemini, so you are quite good at getting your ideas and thoughts across. If anyone can successfully bend communication to their advantage, you can. Whether it be through writing, wit, or just plain sociable conversation, you can make yourself understood, if you really want to. You may be a bit high-strung, but your enchanting and graceful personality more than outweighs your uneasiness. You make life interesting for all you meet. Gemini is also quite restless, being always curious about new ideas. The art of conversation has had a strong impact on you since childhood, when you formed the impression that words caused action. Your parents were inclined to solve their differences verbally by continually arguing and discussing their concerns. Since that time, you have built your behaviour on the assumption that talking alone solves everything. You constantly engage in conversation, exchanging ideas, viewpoints, opinions, and attitudes with other people who prove to be your best sources of information. You love a variety of stimulating ideas and activities that keep your life interesting. You always seem to have more than one thing at a time going on. As you grow older your varied interests mature into a solid versatility that you draw upon in your pursuit of happiness. You love a good argument because you assert yourself through your intellectual expression. You debate quite skillfully and can be quite intimidating as an adversary. You demand the freedom and independence to think and say whatever you please.

Routine bores you, which is especially true in your relationships. Constant variety and stimulation are necessary for you to be happy, which explains your talent (and weakness!) for flirting. Yet, this can cause trouble for you. Rather than working to overcome the inevitable doldrums in your relationships, you too easily give in to restlessness and move on to newer, more interesting relationships. However, the problems you left behind remain unresolved and become issues ignored and forgotten until they inevitably reappear to challenge you in subsequent relationships. And these problems inevitably involve the issue of communication. Effective expression in your relationships, especially on an emotional level, has been difficult for you. You deal in facts, so you relate better to words and ideas than you do feelings and emotions. You analyze your feelings and rationalize your deeper emotions, making them fit into specific categories so that you can communicate them better. As it is difficult to shape feelings with logic, this has not always worked so well. People around you do not always understand your emotional reactions. When an emotional issue becomes too involved, you avoid it. It's just too tempting to move on to something else less emotional and less troublesome. Others interpret this as insensitivity to their feelings, or they think you are superficial and flighty, when this is really not the case. It's just that you are more comfortable conversing on intellectual levels, whereas strong feelings and emotions make you anxious and uneasy.

With a sensitive Cancer Sun, you react instinctively to the emotional complexion of your environment. Your feelings constantly churn in turmoil due to environmental pressures. You respond much easier to moods and feelings than you do words, thoughts or ideas. This strikes others as irrational, but is perhaps better described as non-rational. As such, you form attitudes and impressions almost instantly. You support the efforts of others, but you avoid the spotlight of attention, preferring to keep to yourself. You believe solitude allows you to avoid being influenced and manipulated by others.

As a child, you viewed your parents from an emotional perspective. Given an intense need for emotional affection, you felt you didn't get enough attention from them. Your mother was especially important to you, so you hung on every word, emotion, and sign of approval. She was the centre of your universe, while your father's role was perhaps more marginal. Consequently, as an adult you find women much more interesting and stimulating, while men play minor parts in your life. Both your mother and father were more comfortable playing cultural roles, instead of expressing their individual personalities. They treated each other as Mother and Father instead of husband and wife. Even as an adult, you do not see your parents as individual people. Rather, you still see them as Mom and Dad, the two all-knowing, all-powerful influences from your childhood. As an adult then, parental perceptions play an important part in your approach to relationships. You have strong parental instincts, protecting anything and anyone that you consider defenseless. You even relate to people around you as a parent or a child, not as an adult. Most often, you alternate your behaviour from one role to the other, depending on what you want from your relationships. As such, you can be very supportive and protective towards people, taking a genuine interest in their welfare. Or you act innocent and defenseless, as if you need protection from the harsh realities of life. Naturally, these approaches attract many people who want to be mothered or fathered, or who look for someone to protect. However, you attract only trouble because you play only a role, which eventually becomes evident, much to the disillusionment of others. Both roles, parent and child, are emotionally demanding, and you demand more than people can give.

A Leo Sun shows that your childhood perceptions of parental authority very much influenced you. Your parents viewed life quite seriously, yet despite their realistic approach they were still dissatisfied with their life. They set idealistic standards for themselves and were increasingly uncomfortable because they did not live up to them. As an adult, you react to life much the same as your parents did - uneasily, never cutting yourself some slack, unable to relax. You unconsciously duplicate your parents' example by patterning your behaviour on theirs. You make decisions as you think they would have made them; you react to situations as you believe they would have reacted. Preoccupied by their problems, your parents could not ease the pressures of life they felt. providing acceptance and encouragement to you. This perceived lack of approval motivates you throughout your life to look to others - loved ones, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers - for acceptance, instead of learning to look within. This has had a strong impact on you, because you have accepted this as a normal way of relating to those around you. As a result, it is too easy for you to confuse respect with love, to substitute personal attention for genuine affection.

Paradoxically, you do not accept your own behaviour, because you set such high standards that no one, including yourself, can ever reach them. You apply them to every aspect of your life, including everyone around you. Therefore, you can be quite judgmental and manipulative to the point of being domineering. Yet, you cannot always judge others solely by your personal standards. You need strong values to control your egotism. Respect and self-approval need to come from within before they come from without. If you look to others for approval and acceptance you will trap yourself in a vicious circle. You demand respect from others with ever higher standards, which only leads to further dissatisfaction and a greater need for acceptance. This cycle contributes to a poor self-image and interferes with your efforts to establish and maintain constructive personal relationships.

If acceptance from others is not forthcoming, then you look for recognition from your profession. You have a natural managerial talent and do not shrink from a challenge. You can be very assertive, but you can also be very bossy. You enjoy being the center of attention and command a dramatic self-expression that ensures that attention. Nobody can ignore you.

All children need much loving attention and encouragement balanced by firm authority. Your childhood however, was not quite so ideal (whose is?). Instead of caring attention, you received a bit too much criticism and disapproval, untempered by affection. After trying unsuccessfully (in your eyes) to improve, you began to feel normal not being good enough, which did nothing to promote a sense of self-confidence. As an adult then, you seldom consider ever reaching your goals. As a result, your approach to relationships can be somewhat awkward, counterproductive, and ultimately self-defeating. Grown accustomed to criticism, you feel vulnerable expressing your inner self without an outer mask of seriousness and rational maturity. You come across as being tough, hard and very practical, tolerating no nonsense. Nothing fools you very easily, because you have a natural knack for cutting through pretense to expose the truth. You have a habit of criticizing others first, before they criticize you. This bearing discourages spontaneity and makes it difficult for you to relax when meeting people. You also subconsciously expect a stormy environment. You are uncomfortable, uninspired, and bored by relationships that do not offer such atmospheres. You desperately want acceptance and admiration from others, but you look in all the wrong places. Consciously, you look for approval from others; subconsciously you ignore any attraction you feel to those who do accept and support you. As a result, you undermine your own efforts toward constructive relationships. You fear being accepted, you fear opening up, you fear revealing your vulnerabilities. You invest so much time and attention into building and maintaining personal defenses that you eternally stumble into the rejection of others. A relationship with too much upset drives you crazy. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Believe it or not, your relationship experiences do have a purpose. These ups and downs occur because you impose your unreachable expectations and personal standards on your relationships, instead of just letting matters progress naturally. The frustrations you encounter provoke you into stepping back, catching your breath, and reevaluating your relationship progress. If you are not happy, you should stop. You need to take time to use your famous analytical powers to understand how you interfere with the success of your relationships. You cannot live in a perfect world. You will not find a perfect partner, no matter how hard you work or how high your standards. You need to look beyond your own expectations. Accept people for what they are, not because they need improvement. It is true you have your share of relationship problems; it is also true that you learn from your mistakes.

You are sensitive and you definitely prefer your personal affairs ordered and organized. You particularly enjoy organizing chaotic situations, because confusion means being vulnerable to unexpected events, which you definitely dislike. Virgos are very sensitive to practical experience. More than anyone else, they can benefit from their experience. No matter how screwed up things may get, you always manage to bring order to your life through hard work, sacrifice, and an attention to detail. You know every inch of ground you have covered and you do not make the same misstep twice. Due to your experiences your powers of discrimination mature. As you get older your discriminating judgment becomes your greatest asset.

Libra suggests that anger, tension, and argument affected your childhood. Perhaps violence was a part of your life, either physical or emotional. Your parents were adversaries, openly arguing all the time or maybe just silently disagreeing with each other. In any event, you reacted to this stress by squashing your own angry feelings to avoid upset. You pretended "nothing's wrong, everything's perfect," and this pretense became an all-important defense mechanism. You learned to believe that if everything looked fine then everything was okay. Following this course of logic you also learned to ignore any unwelcome or negative emotions. By disregarding your real feelings you learned to be dishonest with yourself. Anything that threatened your image of calm (such as anger) was denied and forgotten. Whatever the conflict, it caused several personality patterns that still affect you as an adult.

Guilt was your most basic response. You may have seen yourself as the cause of your parents' disagreements. So you assumed the tremendous responsibility of guilt that you still carry with you today. To resolve family fights you assumed the role of peacemaker. You made yourself responsible for calming the troubled waters in your environment. As an adult, you instinctively react to the slightest upset. You respond quickly to any threat of quarrel or emotional conflict, and seek peaceful solutions before matters get out of hand. Feeling responsible for keeping the peace, you will go to great lengths to keep your environment and your relationships calm.

Hand in hand with a need to keep the peace is your compulsion for diplomacy. You learned to be tactful when you felt a responsibility to referee your parents' arguments to restore calm. Not wanting to take sides, you found a tactful approach vital to your efforts to maintain a precarious balance between opposing sides. Today, you feel it is very important not to upset others, so you make a practice of being naturally courteous and polite. You feel responsible for the moods and feelings of people close to you. If they are upset, you automatically assume it is your fault. You rarely hurt others' feelings intentionally and are immediately apologetic if you sense any upset. This instinctive diplomacy makes you socially popular, as you are charming and gracious with people. It is important for you to show the friendliest possible face, as you concern yourself with making a good impression on people.

The downside to this picture is your habit of ignoring your own needs in favor of pleasing others. You see yourself in terms of how others might see you, so you lose touch with your own feelings, needs, and ultimately, your real self. Subconsciously you get angry with yourself and resent others for giving up so much of yourself, even though you do so voluntarily. You ignore your anger, preferring to bury it out of sight, out of mind. Over the years though, these buried emotions accumulate and eventually erupt into an emotional eruption. This catches everyone off guard and you end up distrusting your emotional nature, feeling it is too unpredictable and uncontrollable. This reinforces self-resentment, so the stuffing process continues to interfere with your life and your relationships with others.

After growing up in an atmosphere of stress and tension, you subconsciously seek the same in your adult relationships. The key word here is subconsciously. Consciously you do not want more strain in your life, but subconsciously (where Libra fears to tread) you are attracted to trouble and conflict in your relationships. With the best of intentions you try for a positive, healthy relationship, but your subconscious sabotages your conscious efforts. Not wishing to be upset you ignore your angry feelings, which grow into the stress and strain that is so familiar from childhood. You seek to ease this inner stress by looking for peace and harmony in your outer world. Instead, you must find balance and harmony within, no matter how uncomfortable and uneasy such an effort makes you.

Being uncertain of your own emotional capabilities and preferring logic and rational thinking, you do not value or understand your emotional nature. Instead, you respect strength, power and authority. Emotional sensitivity does not impress you, because you see it as ineffective and misplaced in a rational world. Anyone that appears to be strong is very attractive to you, but you get into trouble because you fail to look deeper to see the real person inside. You see only the outer image and ignore any clues to what lies below the surface. As a result, you do not see people as they really are, only as you think they are. When you find out differently, you get confused and angry, yet you don't acknowledge your disappointment. You feel vaguely betrayed because your partners are not as strong as you thought they should be. Worst of all, they have their own weaknesses and personal drawbacks. You dislike this most of all because you derive your sense of strength from the people close to you. Their weakness only reminds you of your own weakness. And that you cannot tolerate. When you learn to recognize your attraction to power and authority, and when you learn to respect as valid your inner feelings, then you will experience the constructive growth you need for successful relationships.

You do not have to equate tension with having a relationship. You may have had a childhood that lacked positive emotional support, but you do not have to duplicate blindly your past. If you open up and honestly express your inner feelings instead of telling people (especially those close to you) what you think they want to hear, then you can make progress towards a positive relationship. You will have to confront and transform your attitudes about image. Also, you will have to deal with your habit of preserving the peace at any price. You must learn to know yourself honestly, to understand your self-image, and to respect the quieter side of yourself.

As a Scorpio child, you felt rejected somewhat by those you loved. You were also vulnerable to the unpleasant emotions and feelings in your environment. Where other children may have ignored these doubts or strove for more attention, you took them to heart and brooded. You felt (perhaps rightly, perhaps not) that parental anger and frustration were disapproval and rejection directed towards you. You grew up with a strong sense of guilt, feeling responsible for the perceived lack of love and concern from your parents. This deeply affected you because of your intense need for affection and admiration. You learned through hard experience to be very defensive. These intense emotions provide the foundation for two of your deepest behaviour motivations.

To begin with, you search for the parental love and warmth you desperately needed during childhood but felt you didn't get. You need constant reassurance you are needed and appreciated, looking to others for this approval. Being insecure, you don't like to be alone; you do not accept yourself readily. You try to ease your feelings of inferiority by being sexually magnetic. You project an intense, charismatic sexual mystery that fascinates others. You are seductive and appealing, but you can also be very moody and difficult to understand. You are secretive because you don't want to appear vulnerable. You feel that if no one really knows you then no one can really hurt you. Furthermore, you dominate your personal environment - you just can't help it. You also control your personal relationships to avoid any possibility of emotional rejection. You try to guarantee love and affection in your relationships, partly by using your sexuality and partly by controlling your relationships. You can be very possessive and jealous, and are adept at playing psychological games.

When young, this is all you know. You think it is normal to manipulate people because that is what you learned from your parents. This bossy approach eventually backfires though, because people resent and suffocate from your manipulative attitudes. Yet, it is through failure that you learn, because you cut off your inner self so completely from others. Thus, it is only because of relationship trouble that you begin to search for more open and constructive approaches. You discover that this involves more positive and trusting attitudes. You find that you must reach out to others and share yourself openly, to be strong enough to reveal your vulnerabilities to others. In essence, you must embrace and accept openly that which you fear most before you can begin to express positively and constructively the intense power of Scorpio.

Your relationship with your parents has significantly shaped your personality and approach to the outside world. Their idealism especially impressed you, so you incorporate their idealistic values into your life. Concerned with causes and movements, you have a well-defined sense of moral and ethical justice. More interested in intellectual relationships, mental sharing and stimulation attract you more than physical closeness. You prefer candid and open relationships with few ties. You are very extroverted, exciting and adventuresome, but your boisterous personality keeps people from getting too close. Your very funny sense of humor also serves to keep people at an impersonal distance without hurting their feelings. You can be downright uncomfortable with physical intimacy, because you never received any from your parents. You may not want to admit it, but deep inside you are angry at them for not being there emotionally or physically when you needed them. They may have been absent too much. They may have kept their distance from you, keeping your relationship with them more on a companionship level rather than a personal basis. You still harbor an inner hurt because you feel they were much more interested in other things than they were in you. To this day you subconsciously attempt to win their respect by being just as independent and impersonal as they seemed to be.

As an adult, you don't quite know how to react when dealing with intimate situations, because you ignore the validity of your feelings. This causes trouble in your relationships because you only feel comfortable with a sense of extroverted companionship and good-natured competition (which is why you have such a strong liking for sports and the outdoors). Yet, your body language confuses the issue by subconsciously expressing a powerful desire for physical intimacy. When others respond to these signals, you react nervously, get skittish, and bolt for freedom. This leaves everyone involved confused, hurt, frustrated, and eventually a bit angry.

Capricorn ambitiously climbs to prominent social and professional levels. As such, you are competent at working within established business and social organizations. A strong faith in yourself fuels your ability to get things done and impresses your superiors. Believing everything should be sensible and practical, you organize your life with intentions of achieving maximum efficiency and productivity. You have no use for laziness or procrastination, nor do you consider any idea, attitude or philosophy worthwhile if it does not have a practical application. You follow rules to the letter of the law, and a large part of you believes that the end justifies the means. You can be conservative to the point of being dogmatic.

Wanting to avoid relying on anything or anybody, you execute your actions carefully to avoid any possibility of retreat or defeat. You inherited this from your parents, who were themselves careful, calculating, and strict by nature. Frivolity and spontaneity were not allowed in their house, because such things might have upset the status quo. Even a sense of humor was allowed only if it was serious in nature, so your own humor has developed along dry, sarcastic lines. You had a challenging childhood, where family tradition pressured you to conform. Duty and responsibility were heavily emphasized, which may have weighed heavily upon you, especially when very young. In essence, your parents managed the family much like a business, with a style that was more authoritative than personal. As an adult, you remember these disciplines well and embrace them in your lifestyle.

Yet, things may not be so successful for you (as they probably weren't for your parents either, if you take the time to seriously consider the idea). Your managerial approach may be especially unproductive in your relationships. You insist on efficient performance, success and strict obedience in people. However, you inevitably find that if you can dominate those around you, you lose interest in them. You consider them too passive, which you dislike. You only respect people who are strong and commanding in their own right. You are especially attracted to people who present a powerful challenge, people who refuse to be managed or controlled, but still cooperate constructively. If you find these qualities in a person, meet the opportunity by taking a less pushy approach to them. In the long run you learn to appreciate people's unique abilities and knowledge, no matter how much they may differ from your own experience.

Living in an abstract world you prefer to approach others on an intellectual level. You see life in rational terms and view the problems you encounter from an impersonal perspective. Ideas are important to you, because you are more at ease talking about appropriate responses to the problems and issues in your life rather than acting on them.

As a result, people who discuss issues, debate ideas and engage in intellectual arguments are especially attractive to you. You are much more comfortable dealing with groups of people where interaction is generally kept on an intellectual level. Meeting people one on one where matters can suddenly become much more personal than anticipated is not to your liking. Thus, you instinctively create a subtle barrier between yourself and other people, keeping them at a distance while maintaining a well-defined personal space for yourself.

As a child, you were raised in an impersonal family atmosphere where neither deep emotions nor spirited independence were easily expressed. Growing up, you felt distant and isolated from your parents, who never offered you any individual attention. They were off in their own world pursuing their individual goals. Like any child, you yearned for parental attention, and even today there is a part of you that feels deprived. As an adult, you fill this need by emulating your parents' behaviour. You foster a reputation for being different and unusual, and go out of your way to appear eccentric. But as a result, you might feel out of place, as if you never really fit in with others.

Acquaintances are many, but your friendships come and go, so close friends are rare. Still, your friendships are very important to you, because how your friends feel and what they think of you deeply affects you. Yet, no one really knows the you deep inside, because you won't allow anyone to get close. You need intimate friendships, but you are too impulsive and impersonal to create long-term relationships. Stubbornly demanding the personal freedom to do as you please keeps you independent. You do not like to be tied down, disliking restrictions of any kind. No matter how close you get to people, you refuse to be fenced in by anybody. You break commitments by backing out of agreements at the last minute, or by simply ignoring them.

Spiritual in outlook, you are empathetic and are drawn to comfort others by absorbing their worry and pain. You soak up a massive amount of information from your surroundings on practically all levels - conscious, subconscious, emotional, psychic, physical, psychological, and on and on. Somehow, through some mysterious process, all of this information transforms into a deep sensitivity to and understanding of your environment. You are quite susceptible to strong emotions, which affect your own moods and feelings. You are subtly perceptive and know things about people before they do, which often makes them uneasy. This openness has molded and conditioned your self-identity from childhood and continues to affect your life as an adult.

Ever since birth you have been very sensitive to apprehension and worry. As you grew older you impressed others as sensitive but fragile, compassionate but fearful, perceptive yet fanciful. As you matured you were able to overcome most of this delicate image by deepening your self-awareness. However, as an adult your early childhood worries and fears still motivate much of your behaviour. These anxieties make you vulnerable to others. If you are not careful, your openness to those around you creates internal confusion, and you easily lose your sense of identity. Your self-image becomes blurred and vague. You find yourself not really knowing where your identity ends and where that of others begins. This can be very frightening and perplexing for you. Eventually, you learn to shield yourself from unwanted interference and to disguise your perceptiveness so that you do not make others so uneasy.

In your relationships you look for someone who is strong and competent. You easily get tired of the struggles in life, and you want those around you to be strong so you won't have to. You are disappointed and disillusioned though, when you eventually uncover faults and weaknesses. This happens with just about everyone you run into. Who among us is always strong, ever-confident, consistently competent? Because your expectations are unrealistic, you start feeling sorry for yourself and you begin acting like a martyr. You believe you will never have a love affair free from sorrow and regret. Yet, it is your own tendency to look at the people you meet with eyes clouded by fantasy that gets you into your predicament. You would do well to borrow some discriminating analytical qualities from your Virgo cousins. Their practical sense of perception can help you learn to form a more realistic view of the people that attract you, your relationships with them, and your life in general.